What Anger is Trying to Tell You

Anger is one of those feelings you might ignore simply because it's a pain to deal with. 

We are taught at a young age don't be angry. Be nice, be helpful. Do everything you can to be liked. Don't think of yourself. 

As you grow older, putting family first and forgetting about yourself is common. You may be taking care of aging parents along with keeping up with your kids' activities. The list goes on and on.

All these messages translates to: don't express how you really feel - just suck it up.

Paying the price

No one understands how much you do in a day. And no one asks. You complain to your spouse but they don't get it, so you snap at the kids, feel annoyed without knowing why.

You have trouble sleeping because you can't stop thinking about what you need to do tomorrow. Rest becomes almost impossible. Others point out that you rarely sit still.

Life isn't fun anymore, maybe it never was...but you're tired of it. It needs to stop.

There comes a day when you can't do it anymore. You're empty. You feel a slow brewing resentment building up inside. If you want more tips, check out my free tips below.

Anger is a gift

Anger gets your attention. It points to what isn't working, or an aspect of your life that is out of balance. There is a reason why you're angry or resentful. It's not because you're selfish or wrong. You need to find out what's causing the anger?

Tips on where to start:

Seeing the gift in your anger 

Seeing the gift in your anger 

  • Do you do everything yourself and not ask for help?
  • Are you physically exhausted from doing too much?
  • Do you avoid admitting hurt and angry feelings?
  • Do you need to say no more?
  • Do you ignore your own needs?
  • Are you there for everybody else but lack support for yourself?

Find out why you're angry and you'll see what needs to change. If you don't want to do something, stop making yourself do it

Take better care of yourself. Allow yourself to say no. Start expressing how you really feel. That's why anger is a gift. If you honor those feelings, they will point you in the right direction. For more on this read my blog How Healthy AngerCan Actually Empower your and Your Relationships.

Your next steps

What's one thing you could do to take better care of yourself?

Make one small change that's doable. Get more sleep. Say no to a volunteer position that's too much. Ask a friend for a favor so YOU get a break. Always doing leads to always stressing. Making time to have fun and relax is vital if you want to enjoy life.

Let your anger have a voice.

You may recognize anger as a pit in the stomach or a hesitation to move forward. Write it out for clarity. Over time you'll develop an intuitive sense when something is wrong. Trust it. Let anger be your guide instead of the enemy.

You deserve to enjoy your life. Anger will guide you in the right direction if you listen.

What's one change YOU could make today? Let me know by leaving a comment. I'd love to hear from you!

If your anger is causing havoc in your relationships, check out my online course Taming Your Anger. 

  • It's a workbook and a one hour video webinar
  • It outlines how to recognize early signs of anger
  • 10 effective tools to tame it
  • Tips on how to handle conflict.