Do you feel like your always giving but don't get much back?
Do you have trouble putting yourself first?
You are everyone's superhero but your own. Saying no is almost impossible because you can't risk disappointing people.
Maybe you have a family member struggling with addiction. Friends and family don't always give the best advice. Being so reliable is exhausting. You don't have time for yourself but you can't justify taking any either. Underneath, you secretly feel lonely and resentful.
Find out if the best way to help is to take care of yourself in an unmanageable situation. Getting the right support in a safe environment makes a difference. You don't have to suffer alone. You can learn how to take care of yourself without being selfish.
How I can help
Learning what’s your responsibility and what isn't is the first step. Once you know how to redirect the focus back onto you, you’ll get your energy back.
You may feel emotionally and physically drained by taking care of others. Practicing good self-care, setting boundaries and saying no are all important for you as well as for your children.
Group support like Al-Anon and counseling together is a great combination because you learn the tools for how to take care of yourself and accept the things you cannot change. This provides tremendous emotional relief.
If that's not for you, that's okay. We'll practice these concepts and valuable tools in session so that you can get back to your own life. You deserve to get your needs met too.
Do you have issues with...
Getting into relationships that don't work?
Not knowing what you want and need?
Being generous and giving to a fault?
Feel stuck in resentment and can't get out?
Low self esteem or feeling right all the time?
Unexpressed anger that is leaking out?
Setting limits and being able to say no?
It takes courage to think of getting help when you are the one helping everyone else. You deserve to get relief so that you can enjoy life too.
If you are worried about the holidays coming up - this is a video training and workbook that provides tips for how to handle the challenges of the addiction while preserving the relationship.
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