Are you sick of having one-sided relationships but can’t stop yourself from over-giving?  

Do you ever feel like you’re everyone’s superhero—but never your own?

Maybe saying “no” feels impossible because you can’t risk letting people down. You give and give… until you’re exhausted.

You might have a family member struggling with addiction—or maybe you just keep finding yourself drawn to people who need rescuing or who can’t truly show up for you. You have a huge heart, and that’s wonderful—but if you’re a people pleaser it can be hard to speak up, set boundaries, or put yourself first.

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone.

Where Does Codependency Come From?

Codependency usually starts in childhood as a way to cope with family dysfuntion. If you grew up in a home where chaos, neglect, or control ruled the day—your needs probably didn’t come first. Maybe you had to manage a parent’s moods or make yourself “useful” to feel loved.

Back then, putting others first felt safe. It kept the peace. But now? It leaves you feeling stuck, resentful, and disconnected from your own needs.

What Does It Feel Like Today?

You’re probably great at knowing what everyone else wants—but when it comes to your own needs, you draw a blank. Self-care feels foreign. Asking for help feels wrong.

So you keep doing more, giving more, hoping things will finally feel balanced. But instead, you end up:

  • Tired and overwhelmed

  • Resentful (but afraid to show it)

  • Lonely—even in relationships

  • Unsure of who you really are

Sound familiar?

What Is Codependency?

Codependency is a pattern of putting others first—at your own expense. It’s when your sense of worth depends on being needed or loved by others.

And while helping is a good thing, doing it at the cost of your own well-being leads to one-sided relationships. You give, they take—and you’re left feeling empty.

The hard part? These patterns started long ago because they worked. But they don’t work anymore.

The good part? You can change them.

How Counseling Helps

The first step is awareness—seeing where these patterns show up in your life. From there, we can start building new habits that honor your needs without sacrificing your caring nature.

In our sessions, you’ll learn how to:

✔ Set healthy boundaries without guilt
✔ Stop rescuing and start restoring your energy
✔ Tune into what you want and need
✔ Express anger in healthy ways (instead of bottling it up)
✔ Build confidence and self-trust

And we’ll do it one step at a time—no judgment, no shame. Just compassionate support and practical tools to help you reclaim your life.

What Codependency Recovery Looks Like

It’s not about becoming “selfish.” It’s about creating balance—caring for others and yourself.

Here’s what we’ll focus on together:

  • Shift the focus back to you. Learn how to prioritize your needs without feeling guilty.

  • Build relationship skills. Boundaries, communication, problem-solving, and emotional regulation.

  • Understand the roots. Explore where these patterns started so you can finally break free.

It takes time, but with the right support, you can feel calmer, stronger, and more in control of your life.

Ready to take the first step?

You’ve been there for everyone else—now it’s time to be there for you.

Additional Resources for Your Recovery

Healing from codependency works best when you have both individual and group support—because doing this alone can feel overwhelming.

Many people find 12-step programs like Al-Anon or CODA incredibly helpful. These groups offer a safe, understanding community where you can share your struggles without judgment. Most meetings are free and easy to access online through Zoom, which makes them even more convenient.

When you combine therapy with peer support, the results can be powerful. Therapy gives you personalized guidance and tools. Group meetings provide ongoing support and connection from people who “get it.”

But if group meetings aren’t for you, that’s okay! In our sessions, we’ll practice these same tools and concepts so you can:

  • Identify your codependent patterns

  • Build healthier habits

  • Take small steps toward getting your life back

Because here’s the truth: Your needs matter too. And it’s time you start honoring them.

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